Two weeks ago I shared how I’d been feeling sad since the holidays ended. Contributing to it was grief, my mom died in July; I was sick for the first three weeks of January, I am empty nesting, and my niece is crucially ill. Many factors in my life have felt stacked against me and I haven’t been very happy.
Last weekend I knew I needed to slow down and take it easy. Jeff and I shopped on Saturday, and on Sunday I did a deep clean of the house, repotted some plants, and organized. Having a clean organized house helped my head feel in a better place.
This past weekend, Jeff and I shopped for some updated lamps and rugs for the house and did groceries. I also found a few more pots for my plants. Yes, I have a lot of plants. I got many when my mom died and they are all special to me, so they need extra TLC.
I must admit these past two weeks have been good for me. I’ve been sleeping in on the weekends, and staying home and reorganizing the house has helped me feel more grounded. However, I know something is still missing. Is it my mom?
As positive as I try to be, when I was deeply down a few weeks ago (while on a ski vacation), I felt so hopeless. I really didn’t care about skiing or being with anyone. Being able to talk about my feelings really helped. I have a great core group of friends, and I have a couple really close ones.
When I was so down on my vacation, my friend Karen was a superstar. We shared many chairlift rides where she just let me talk, and that helped so much. She’s been in touch a few times since we’ve been home. I can’t thank her enough for just letting me talk and for the support. It was tremendous.
And Jeff was a rockstar. He was there for me and let me cry and asked what I needed. He was so patient with me.
My family has been great, too. My dad has been tagging me in Facebook posts to help lift my spirits, and he’s called a few times to check on me. My mother in law has also reached out and texted. My sisters have also been checking in.
Having a core group of people in your life, those who you know will be there, is so important for mental health. When you’re up and happy, everyone will be around. It’s the times when you’re at the bottom, and you look and see hands there to help you up, those are your people. Those are the ones you keep close. I am blessed with a posse of those people in my life.
My mom is gone. I will always feel that. I process that every day. Some days it’s easier than others. Knowing I have people around who help me process makes it that much easier. I am so grateful and thankful for that.